Attachment psychologist in English, Grief therapy, therapy after breakups in Stockholm

Hi, I’m vanessa bandini

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“I offer evidence-based psychotherapy grounded in warmth, clarity, and deep respect for each person’s unique story.”

I’m a qualified psychologist, Schema Therapist, and experienced lecturer with a strong international background. With over 15 years of experience, both as a therapist and as an expat in Asia, I specialise in helping individuals going through grief, painful breakups, betrayals and post-infidelity emotional distress.

I provide tailored, compassionate psychotherapy for issues such as anxiety, low self-esteem, perfectionism, relationship difficulties, and emotional dysregulation. My approach is rooted in Schema Therapy, integrating the latest research in psychology with deep empathy and a multicultural understanding of identity and resilience.

Whether you’re struggling with self-worth, stress, or painful relational dynamics, I work collaboratively with you to create lasting and meaningful change.

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Registered full member of the International Society of Schema Therapy #94933275

Registered psychologist at the British psychological society GMBPSS3111628

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I provide therapy in english and spanish

attachment therapy

  • Repeated patterns of unfulfilling relationships

  • Difficulty to trust partners will stay. Fear of abandonment

  • Low self-worth in relationships

  • Needing constant reassurance or simply numbing yourself not to feel emotional pain

  • Repeating unhealthy relationship patterns, attracting the same type of partners

  • Difficulties to end relationships even though you realise that you are not happy

  • Healing from past betrayals, emotional injuries

  • Struggling with closeness, intimacy, commitment

  • Re-playing old wounds in relationships

  • Hyper-independence or relying only on yourself

  • Feeling torn between wanting connection and wanting space

  • Attachment wounds showing up in parenting, friendships, at work, etc.

individual therapy

  • Anxiety and constant worrying

  • Depression, sadness, low mood

  • Loss of interest in activities, old hobbies, socialising

  • Irritability, frustration, restlessness, “short fuse”

  • Repeated patterns of unfulfilling relationships

  • Healing from childhood emotional neglect

  • Healing from emotionally immature parents

  • Healing from a difficult socio-economic or religious background

  • Expats’ cross-cultural adjustment issues

  • Unrelenting standards, perfectionism, self-criticism

  • Life/relationship/job dissatisfaction

  • Struggles setting boundaries

  • Cultivating resilience and finding a sense of purpose

health psychology

  • Managing stress related to health issues

  • Recovering from chronic overload, mental fatigue, reduced focus, decision making fatigue and emotional depletion

  • Living with pain or fatigue. Psychological tools and skills to navigate them

  • Coping with medical diagnoses mitigating shock, fear, uncertainty, anger and more

  • Addressing insomnia

  • Lifestyle change. Acquiring healthier habits and self-care routines

  • Coping strategies to deal with the emotional impact of upcoming surgeries and medical procedures (mammography, biopsies, magnetic resonance imaging, plastic surgeryetc.)

  • Processing emotions triggered by surgical complications

  • Therapy focused on the aftermath of a traumatic surgery or delivery

  • Skills building and anxiety management related to pregnancy, delivery and general anaesthesia

  • Processing fear of death

  • Coping strategies to deal with anticipatory distress and avoidance when you have medical procedures scheduled

Grief therapy

  • Coping with the overwhelming sadness, shock and the emotional waves after the death of a loved one

  • Sudden or traumatic loss that feels confusing, abrupt or too intense

  • Anticipatory grief

  • Being in a care-taking role of a loved one facing a long-term illness

  • Identity changes after loss

  • Complicated or prologued grief. Feeling stuck, heavy, endless pain

  • Feelings of guilt or regret related to a loss

  • Loss and trauma intertwined

  • Miscarriage, stillbirth or fertility loss

  • Navigating anniversaries and triggers

  • Rebuilding life after loss

  • Grief after relocation. Mourning old identities, familiar life left behind

  • Loss of a pet or companion animal

My fees and packages

  • Free introductory session

    You are very welcome to book a free ONLINE introductory session (30 minutes) with me. In this session you will have space to describe what brings you to therapy and ask questions. I will explain my therapeutic approach and give you some insights. This is a gentle starting point to make sure you feel comfortable, informed and supported.

  • Individual session

    1,200 SEK / 110 EUR

    A therapy session offers a calm and confidential space to reflect, understand, and explore your experiences, emotions, and patterns always at a pace that feels comfortable and respectful.

    The goal is to support greater self-awareness, emotional resilience, and lasting change. Every session is a step toward a deeper understanding of yourself and a more balanced, fulfilling life.

  • 4-sessions package

    4,000 SEK / 365 EUR

    You save 800 SEK / 75 EUR

    Over 4 sessions, we can clarify patterns, deepen insight and set the foundation for meaningful change. You will gain continuity, momentum and focus on your therapy goals while receiving a reduced rate.

  • 6-sessions package

    5,700 SEK / 520 EUR

    You save 1,500 SEK / 140 EUR

    This package is ideal for those who wish to engage more deeply in their therapeutic journey and see meaningful progress over time. Across six sessions, we’ll have the opportunity to explore core themes, identify patterns, and begin creating lasting change.

    The continuity of this package supports a stronger therapeutic process — allowing insight and growth to unfold naturally from week to week. It also offers a more economical rate than booking individual sessions.

Therapy near me in Stockholm. Psychologist near me in English in Stockholm

you are most Welcome to my practice!

Lundmakargatan 52, Stockholm - SWEDEN

Or, Online over Zoom

I consider it a privilege to witness people at their most vulnerable and seeing them confront old patterns, and step into the lives they truly want.
— Vanessa Bandini
Best therapist online in English. Communication problems in relationships, infidelity, boundaries

My path

From an early age, I found myself drawn to people’s stories—their quiet resilience, their unspoken wounds, and the spark of life that persists even in the darkest moments.

My path to becoming a psychologist began not in textbooks, but in lived experience. In my early twenties, I spent several years volunteering in underserved communities, witnessing how emotional wounds affect physical health, relationships, and self-worth. These experiences shaped my understanding of how deeply our histories, environments, and unmet needs impact our well-being.

Later, while working in medical settings, I became acutely aware of how often psychological suffering goes unnoticed, especially in those who appear to “function” on the outside. This led me to pursue advanced studies in Health Psychology and then specialise in Schema Therapy—a powerful approach that helps clients uncover and transform the deep emotional patterns that keep them stuck.

Along the way, I’ve also walked my own therapeutic path. Years of personal therapy, therapeutic retreats, and meaningful conversations with mentors have helped me cultivate the presence, clarity, and emotional depth that I now bring to my clinical work. These experiences didn’t just educate me—they transformed me.

Today, as a psychotherapist and lecturer, I remain committed to learning, growing, and offering therapy that is not only evidence-based but deeply human.

Whether working with individuals, I create a warm and structured space where people feel genuinely seen, supported, and challenged to create meaningful change.

  • BSc (Hons) Psychology (England)

  • MSc Health psychology (England)

  • MSc Clinical psychology (England)

  • Schema therapist certification, Dutch institute for Schema therapy

  • ISST (International Society for Schema Therapy) approved schema therapy training

  • Grief counselling. American Institute for Health Care Professionals

  • Attachment-focused therapy

  • ISST approved Couples therapy certification (In training. Graduating in March 2026. Eckhard Roediger Schema Therapy training. Frankfurt). Schema therapy for couples specialisation training.

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Psychologist in English in Stockholm and online therapy